the MEDIOCRE

How does it feel to be an average in all the areas where you perform. Start the life cycle, as you are born,you blurted out the first word from your mouth at an age when every infant do this,the first step,the first alphabet,then in education from pre nursery to college never failed but never reached the top,till second you managed,and when you prepare your C.V for the first job the education score is average.Participated in debates,essay writing,sports,cultural plays and so on.But you yourself know that your performance was average,nothing extraordinary to make you feel so happy that you go sleepless for nights.

What is this mediocrity all about and how does it feels to be one? To put it bluntly the person who is a mediocre,is in the worst phase. Ambitious to be on the top of the pyramid,striving to be in the bracket of being excellent and still happy that he doesn't slips to the bottom. 

Motivation for mediocre's is hard to find, no quotes, stories nothing at all. But for failures and toppers there is a plethora of stuff which can be read, seen, absorbed which is enough to give you a kick atleast for the moment. Mediocre's are in dilemma from topper's stories or failure's success, because you are at the crossroads and what's going to help you, you don't know. But isn't it true that every success story has gone through the route of being average at some point of time. That every failure has to undergo this life-cycle to be successful. 

That every successful person has to stop at this phase and gradually he move's up. The question here to moot upon is that what the person is struck here for a long time. As it is said a person is all about his attitude, habits which transform into skills which help you grow and sustain whatever comes in your way. What being a mediocre for more than usual time has provided you those attitudes, habits and those distinct skills that neither you can't be on the top nor at the bottom,however hard you try.

The famous former CEO of GE Jack Welch in one of his books wrote about himself,that he knew he was an average person and he chose a lower ranked University for his education though he was selected for Top Universities, so that he can remain in the top of the pyramid in a low rank university rather than  slip at the bottom because of rich talent pool available alongside with him in the Top Universities. Atleast one positive of being a Mediocre, but this strategy should work!!!!!

So the final question that arises is how to avoid mediocrity??????

In my opinion, a person shouldn't compromise. Every person is born with some inherent talents which are polished with time and he should strive to achieve more and shouldn't get satisfied for the moment and procrastinate. There is nothing atleast for the moment, "I will adjust". Few are fortunate who have second chances in there life, amends can be made, but what is stamped on you can't be changed. I am not in a demoralizing mode,just want to emphasize "DONT COMPROMISE". There is nothing like a mediocre, infact nobody remembers a "MEDIOCRE". Only Success or Failure stories are heard and spread. An average story is never heard as it doesn't exists.

Therefore please wherever you feel that you are making a compromise,take a deep breath and try to analyze long term effects. Though it's true that you can't predict the future and you have to take the chances and sometimes waiting for the best, you miss so many average occasions which have the potential to take you, where you aspire to be. Experience is the best teacher, don't take decisions just to satisfy yourself rather be mature and practical. Right from choosing your college,job,switching jobs, choosing life partner don't ever try to settle down with what you have got. Take a firm step and control yourself.Just throw the baggage of fears which you carry and for decision making "Lord Shree Krishna"has the solution.

P.S:- What if this blog also turns out to be Mediocre...:P

   

The Curious Case of "Women Reservation Bill"

While my Group Discussion (GD) for my MBA program, my group was served with the expected topic,"Women Reservation Bill".The whole group came out with really strong points for the bill,and before it will be tabled in the parliament for further discussion,it was approved by the "Aam Aadmi-The Mango people of India". Even the moderators were also really impressed by the way discussion took. Now after a month when I am all set to join. This topic resonates in my mind often, I always ask myself why I didnt think unconventionally,as I usually do.Why I didnt opposed and instead of Pro UPA, for a moment should have joined the Mulayam's Bandwagon, but that was a matter of securing a seat in the college,so came up with really very strong points "for the motion". And the two girls in my group, were repeating the name of Pepsico Chairman's name "Mrs Indira Nooyi",that if this bill is passed,it will be an important step in Women Empowerment and many Women CEO's are in the offing,even weaving dreams for themselves too,that the first step of being a CEO,Mission MBA achieved, and the majority of Indian population consent for her the next CEO also gets the nod.

But what I think,does India really requires this Reservation?Does an efficient Home Managers,ready to occupy the major chunk in Parliament,and ready to showcase impropriety as most politician men do. Is a single "Reservation on Caste Base" is not enough? Will it not allow multiplication of hundred's of Rabri Devi's? And who says there will be no corruption,because no research yet has yet proved that "Women cant be equally corrupted to men"? Like such many questions are there,still unanswered.

There are certain critical issues which India faces,which require immediate attention action and strong address from every sphere of the society,like female foeticide,dowry problems,domestic violence and education for women.But how does this leads us to Reservation and that to 33%,its a big number. How can we come to a conclusion,that a certain gender is required for the upliftment of similar gender,when the facts before us show that what is the story of Rajasthan,which was under the reigns of a woman Chief Minister,and that state leads the table in all the negative issues which I mentioned earlier.How many times do we hear women parliamentarians right from Mrs Gandhi to Sushma Swaraj,talking about Women's Right. But if the other political parties are wise enough,they would have understood that,one this Bill will not be passed two UPA will win almost all the sympathy votes of Women.Its a Win-Win Situation.

Other problem is the way formula involved for driving of these seats,Many agree that drawing a lottery can be one way to ensure fairness.But the real hitch is the absence of any logic in choosing constituency. One way to chose the 33 percent constituencies that go for reservation first up,could be by identifying those constituencies which have the highest proportion of women voters.Or constituencies which have historically seen the lowest female representation could be chosen.A simple lottery does not account for such a logic,atleast "the political logic".After distribution the Election Commission will have to face the wrath of Political Parties another Headache for them,when the role of Commission is already under Scanner for its Biased approach for political leaders.

If weird thinking is involved,as projected,many young faces,mostly unmarried will have a major share in this Bill,so the party high commands may have to look into the matters of MP's who will be marrying to conceiving. The situation can be more hilarious,certain numbers of MP's on pregnancy leave,which even in the worst case has to be atleast two months(inclusive of Pre Pregnancy and Post Pregnancy time,so loss of precious decision making time. If this Bill comes into effect,the important change which I would like to see the "Queues" starting from the Tickets of Theater's,Trains,Buses to Bills of Electricity,Telephones and Water."No separate Queue's" as women will be much stronger and empowered,so atleast no chance of "Eve Teasing" is possible.As women in India have the prerogative to form a separate queue,where it is not even mentioned to form one.

After putting so many details,I certainly say that I am against this Bill.Instead of Bill,we as Indians need a "Will".A will to change the mindsets of people,Education is the key area where our focus should be,which is the only panacea for aforementioned problems. In southern India,we find women drivers,conductors,even at petrol pumps(mind it all women crew) which is complete absence in Northern India(my travel is limited,to these two spheres only,so cant comment about Western and Eastern regions).So the need is to change the narrow mindset of majority of Indians,the upliftment can take few more years but reservation of seats for women is not a logical solution at all.When women can dare to break the shackles of Indian community and can set the ramp on fire by adorning bikinis,then other issues are really petty.

The Bottom Line: I as a Brahmin,who hugs and dines with every human despite the caste,creed and color, who already faces the axe of "Caste Based Reservation" and doesn't want any other Reservation in my country,because I am in no mood to explain my future generations about the constitutional flaws and laws.

The ORKUT love story

An unknown person particularly of opposite sex visits your profile on one of the social networking sites, you reciprocate by visiting the unknown, finds the person beautiful or handsome,, whatever the case maybe,and make a picture in your mind, if the other person visited his/her profile,there maybe something in me which is liked by him/her. Let us send a friend a request,and see where it takes. In this scenario,boys are more impatient,most of the persons inn these social sites is displayed single,either they are really "single" and "ready to mingle" or looking for a change. Nobody is really enjoying the "happily single" phase,and if then for a moment only,everybody wants to get to rid off this status asap. In some cases,some are getting in touch with their childhood crushes,or one time meetings,which at that moment of time in the past,couldn't be transmogrified into a healthy friendship and further into a blooming and burgeoning relationship. But at this moment, a friend request,, a "Hi,how are you,Remember me" line can work for you instantly. Then some more scraps,few mushy and friendly emails,chatting on gtalk or yahoo messenger. Even video chatting(Courtesy Skype/Yahoo Messenger),phone no. and even the proposal also over the phone. The Love story has finally begun. Mostly many of these "so called love stories" are "long distance relationships" which further complicates this thing over the time.
Really speaking,today the youth from 16-30 age group,it can vary(my statistics are based on my limited knowledge) are using these social networking sites as a tool to get companions. These sites are a real revolution, and nobody is untouched by this phenomenon. when it started it was a forum of friends and our known ones to stay connected and find our lost buddies.Though, today also it serves as a marvelous tool to be in touch, but at the back many are reaping the benefits of finding "love". To search and even find "love" has become so easy and cheap,just a click away. BINGO!
My candid confession has to be a part of this blog, I too got my adolescent crush on such a social networking site. My closest buddy,after his engagement broke down,disgusted and dejected, went to a firang country for his further studies and to overcome the shock of his life, who claimed and boasted that he has lost the tendency to fall in love and trust somebody now, todays he's in a healthy relation and I am sure he is going to walk down the aisle any sooner,ask him how this "Pyar Impossible" became "Possible" instant reply "Orkut Zindabad". and the girl is in India, all the distances are just vanished by a click. And likewise there are many such successful stories. Finally, a day comes,when you change your relationship status from "single" to "committed", you get messages from nook and cranny, "Kya Scene Hai", Whats going on?
But as any other coin, this coin is also having the other side, the happy faces can suddenly become sad ones, because these networking sites have become portent "Relationship Breaker" too. Those who initiated their relationships from this platform, and are long distance lovers are the worst hit, because "Pyar ke Side Effects" is a lot of insecurities. How much you try you cant know and understand a person over a phone, you need to spend some quality time. Guys and Gals,who are in such a binding relationship, dont jump off your seats,exceptions are always there,and think yourself the lucky one's.
My female friends are always in a fix. Especially,if they get a request from some unknown or little known male,and they accept it or they post some of their pics,where their curvaceous body is best visible,then their male chauvinistic boyfriend will create "havoc", and "Abla Naari" for saving the "True Love", either has to delete the pics, sometimes even hide her identity by changing her name,few examples are expect the unexpected, live and let live etc, there is a plethora of such hilarious profile names. In worst cases,sometimes the profiles are deleted forever. a final fullstop is punched.
Some start detesting these sites,some start loving and some say if he/she goes away, the duplicate matrimony site will open more options, and that too without any charges. Despite all these pros and cons, these social networking sites have world even a more smaller place. I am sure many of you who will go through this blog will identify themselves in some parts.